I recently read this article by Kevin DeYoung.
You should read it, but I thought this was the crux of it:
It’s amazing how few of us talk to each other about God. Not about church or about being a Christian, but about God. I’m not sure if we are scared of being irrelevant, or scared of being too spiritual, or if we just plain don’t think that knowing God will help much of anything–but for some reason our initial reaction when friends are struggling or suffering or wrestling with temptation is to tell them about something other than God.
The power comes from God. The power to lift someone out of depression. The power to turn sorrows into joy, mourning into dancing, to replace a crown of ashes with a crown of beauty, to lift spirits, to take an angry man and turn him into a peaceful one, to take a violent man and turn him into a gentle one, to take a girl who hates herself and use her to bring healing to others, …
We can know all God’s ways and what He says about things… But if we don’t know God, that power is severely limited.
What you and I need most is not the affirmation of our stories, nor content-less, shapeless platitudes about the mysterious journey of faith, nor a morality pep talk, nor the undermining of God’s sovereignty. What we need is a glimpse of God in all his terrible splendor and wonderful weightiness.
So true. (: